About
Barbara Duchnowski, LCSW
Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician · EMDR · Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist
I treat adults whose nervous system is still organized around someone who used control, confusion, and intermittent warmth to keep them off balance. Many of my clients hold a job, a household, and a public face — and then lose hours after one message. That is the injury. It is not a character flaw.
I have decades of clinical experience. The work I take now is focused on purpose: narcissistic abuse, high-control relationships, and the complex trauma those relationships leave. If a general therapist would serve you better, I will tell you that.
Credentials
- Licensed Clinical Social Worker, New Jersey
- Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician
- EMDR therapist
- Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist
- Founder, New Leaf Psychotherapy and the Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Center of New Jersey
How I work
We do not spend months only retelling the story while life keeps moving. We stabilize enough to work, then use EMDR, hypnosis, parts work, and body-based tools on the memories and beliefs that still run the day. The aim is something you can use the same week: a clearer no-contact plan, language for grey rock, a steadier body, a belief that has less grip.
I work only by telehealth with adults located in New Jersey.
Who this is for
- Adults who have left, or are leaving, a narcissistic or high-control partner.
- Adults in a high-conflict divorce or coparenting structure who need to stay functional.
- Adult children of a narcissistic or high-control parent, especially after cutoff, decline, or an estate fight.
- People who have already done meaningful talk therapy and want work that reaches what talking did not finish.
How I decide whether to take a case
The consult is 15 minutes and is about fit, not a therapy session. If what you need is a weekly therapist for a broad range of concerns, or treatment focused on anxiety, depression, ADHD, children, or teens, I will tell you directly and will not book you into the wrong fit. If the central problem is the relationship that rewired you, and you want focused work, we can talk about starting.